What I want for Mother's Day


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Mother's Day. It's a worthwhile celebration of the most amazing and selfless people on earth. The women that lost the sleep, gained the weight and rebuilt their lives to revolve around the tiny creatures that we all once were. Not only my own mom, but my wife, mother-in-law, sister and friends that are moms are receiving my applause today in this role that is often taken for granted, shamed and increasingly goes unnoticed. Today, we take a moment to send the flowers, the mugs, the chocolates and brave the bustling restaurants to say you are loved, that you are worth it and that your mundane and never-ending hustle are supernatural investments, building the most important things in the world.


 But moms, I want to ask you this Mother's Day to do something for me; not only receive the gifts, smile and go about your way. As a son, I want to ask YOU for a gift this Mother's Day. The ultimate gift that any of us as sons and daughters could ask for is something you can give without spending a dime because today, we just want you. We want you to be present with us, to show up in our lives and be who you really are. Our very DNA cries out for this incredible bond that can only exist between a mother and her child and even though you give selflessly the other 364 days of the year, please draw close to us today. Can we all put our phones away, turn off the TVs and the noise and simply be close, aware of one another and the deep need we have to connect. To my own mom, I would say that all I have ever really wanted from her is everything she is. To feel close and connected not to the facades that I expertly build and project, but to our truest and most authentic selves taking intentional steps together down the winding road of vulnerability and human connection. My mom has known me at my most vulnerable moments and loved me even more. So mothers, please take this day to feel loved and cherished because you most certainly are, but I am asking that you would give the very best gift you could ever offer us. Give yourself to those around you. Free from expectations of what should be and fear of what could be, and dive head first into the deepest human need of all: to be seen and loved for who we really are. And if we are honest, you, mothers, are the ones who know just who we really are. Thanks for selflessly giving us the most amazing gift on your special day. And that gift is you.

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